Let's be real.
We all battle with lust.
We see a particularly good looking creation of God and we go BEYOND appreciating what the Lord has created and we get greedy, lustful and desiring of that person's affection\attention (with no intention of giving anything back)
[The dictionary's definition of lust is "1) intense or unrestrained sexual craving, or 2) an overwhelming desire or craving] - http://www.gotquestions.org/what-is-lust.html
Matthew 5:28 goes to say: "But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart"
So let me clarify.
There is NOTHING wrong with getting butterflies in your stomach when you see someone that is pleasing to your eye (or being in their company)
Where the Bible condemns us is what we DO with these feelings of attraction or what I like to call appreciation of God's creation....
You see, lust has only one thing in mind- self-satisfaction.
Christ has NEVER been about self-satisfaction but rather the act of being completely and utterly selfless.
...and from lust, we move to fantasy and from fantasy we move to crossing boundaries and before you know it ..." Girl, you'll never guess what happened last night"
PREVENTATIVE MEASURES:
--> PRAY (call out to Jesus everytime a lustful or fantastical thought comes through #truestory)
--> FAST
--> PRAY SOME MORE
--> PRAISE GOD AND THANK GOD FOR THE AFFLICTION (#truestory)
--> Be FRIENDS first!
--> Cut out the pet names! Friends don't call each other baby, boo, HUSBAND, mami or papi!
-->If you're having a late night talk, make it a point to discuss everything BUT how you "feel" about each other (girls I know this sounds hard)
--> The flirtatious texting needs to stop! If he is your friend, be a lady and do not lead a brother on or send him mixed signals- you wait for HIM to send the signal and then you can send one back.
--> Get to know him in a GROUP setting. You will see that maybe he ain't all that you cracked him up to be, whether or not he's built like an Adonis.
PART III TO BE CONT'D
Welcome to whylinger.blogspot.com I created this blog before being diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Posts prior to 2019 frame what was going through my mind at the time, and also frames how creative/productive and determined I can be during manic episodes. I've gone through a lot of changes since then and got a lot of help to stay mentally healthy. I am more than my bi-polar brain but welcome to the page and thanks for reading.
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From 2018 Mbula: This post has a really agressive and condemning tone. It's good to know you've developed a different view to this now. I think that attraction and fantasizing is normal part of adulthood...but never towards a minor. And when you start objectifying that person and no longer see that individual as a person...you've gone too far
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